Angry With God? My Third Concern

To get at this concern, let’s have a  hypothetical conversation.

Scenario One:

You say, “I’m angry with God.”
I say, “Hmm. What are you doing about your anger with God?”
Your answer:  Silence.
I rest my case. Angry at God and doing nothing about it. That is hazardous to your heart and souring to your soul.

Scenario Two:

Let’s try it again.
You say, “I’m angry with God.”
I say, “Hmm. What are you doing about your anger with God?”
You say, “I am ruminating on it, fixating on it, getting more and more irritated with God about it. I am rehearsing over and over in my mind how God let me down.”
I say, “That is what I am concerned about. Anger against God rarely fades away. It doesn’t dissipate. It doesn’t disappear. It intensifies. Because that is what anger does. If you don’t bring other spiritual energies to bear against your anger, it will only grow worse. And you’ll want little or nothing to do with God.”
You say . . .  Well, what do you say?

Scenario Three:

One more time.
You say, “I’m angry with God.”
I say, “Hmm. What are you doing about your anger with God?”
You say, “I don’t know what to do about my anger. Nothing seems to work.”
I say, “I understand. It will take some time. You will need a renewed mind about God. You will need an enlightened heart about your experience of suffering. You will need faith, hope, and love. You’ll need to learn new lessons of trust. You’ll need a few good friends who will be a part of how you gain what you need. God will give you those things.” Are you ready?
You say, “Okay…I think so.”

In this last scenario, your anger can now become a stepping stone for spiritual growth. Depending on how dense and dark your anger is, the journey may be long, slow, deep, and difficult.  But that is life in general. It is pretty much standard operating procedure for growing in maturity.

My third concern is the balance and perspective needed by the one who is angry. It isn’t there with the standard advice. It is lacking. The potentially destructive energy of the darker emotions needs to be addressed, but it isn’t. Anger with and at God needs to be answered with love and firmness, with wisdom and encouragement, and with the expectation of personal responsibility and social support.

The very stuff you need to encounter God is what your anger prevents. That’s my concern.

Pastor Brian

Brian Rice

Brian Rice

What I love most about my job:

Having the ability to empower and resource leaders to bear much fruit that lasts. Being a part of a team of friends and missional servants committed to changing the world.
Brian Rice