Yesterday we covered the first five contributors to resilience. Here are the remaining factors that produce resilience.
For each factor, give yourself a letter grade for how strongly it is true for you.
A is really high and D or F is really low.
Role models are vital in helping us see what resilience is like. They inform, they inspire, and they empower us. You need resilient people in your life for all three purposes. For me, my dad was one of the great role models of resilience. As a pastor, there are so many people at Living Word who display great resilience—cancer survivors, those in recovery, those dealing with ongoing illness, single parents—the list goes on.
7|| Pay attention to your physical health and strength.
Of course you should take care of yourself. Exercise, eat well, sleep well. The more strength you have the more stamina you will have. When I pay attention to my physical health I have so much more energy to keep on keeping on. If there is one thing I wish most of us would do much better it is to take care of our physical health. Take care of spiritual health first, but don’t neglect the physical side.
8|| Keep your brain active.
Think, read, learn, study, process, get in conversations that are challenging. Find out your preferred way to keep your brain active. Learn a new skill. Learn a new language. Play a musical instrument. Do crossword puzzles. A lot of brain stimulation can be fun. Keep that brain of yours firing on all cylinders. Make a commitment to lifelong learning. Without sounding weird, I am much more informed at the age of 63 then I was at the age of 50.
I have spent the last 13 years in energetic, disciplined, strategic learning. By God’s grace I will be a smarter 70 year old then I was at 60. I want Living Word to be a place where you are intellectually challenged. Upgrade your mind constantly. (The image is corny, but I like it.)
9|| Develop emotional intelligence.
Yes, it matters. All the work by Daniel Goleman and others on emotionally healthy lives is important. And, of course, emotions in connection with relationships are the most important. Being at peace, laughing, affirming others, showing delight, giving encouragement, having empathy—this is resilience. You know, angry, mean, bitter, spiteful, cynical, sarcastic, critical people ARE NOT resilient.
10|| Have a meaningful purpose in life.
This one is huge. The power of purpose cannot be underestimated. Have a purpose worthy of life, of your life.
So that’s it. These are the 10 factors that make for resilience. Every factor in itself is a good thing for you, but each factor has byproducts that are sweeter still.