Not that I needed it (if you know what I mean).
Many of you were with us on the Sunday when I held up the marriage book that I was about to read.
Well, I read it.
I started it on the flight to Ethiopia and finished it yesterday.
It was good. Very good.
First, for affirmation of the good things that are in our marriage, the track we have been on for decades, the lessons we have learned, and the best practices we put into action.
Then, for encouragement, motivation, and direction to re-engage on things I know but tend to neglect (which I think most of have to address). Along the way, how many messages, insights, and painful experiences have we had that have showed us what is good, right, and true, but which we neglect? Even when we read things we already know, that reading brings them to the front burner and reminds us to put it into practice.
Next, for a reminder that good marriage does not just happen. All marriages require work. Good marriages require a lot of work. And a lot of work makes for a good marriage.
Finally, for being married to Becky. She puts into practice almost everything the book talks about. I know it makes her a great wife. I believe that is part of what makes her a good counselor. She lives what she counsels.
I recommend to everyone the occasional reading of a book on marriage, parenting, or anything that is a major part of your life. It is good to get a refresh, a recharge, an audit, and to think once again about the things That Matter Most.
P.S. The marriage book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, was written by a secular author who has done an enormous amount of research. Too many marriage books are based on anecdotes, some “supposed” common sense practical ideas, etc. This has sound data behind the principles. It is well written and includes pages of practical assessments and stepping stones for conversation.
MEN: Do yourself a big favor – get the book, work through it, and put it into practice. Even doing some of the suggestions will make a big difference.
WIVES: Don’t buy him a copy of the book and let it lie around.
EVERYONE: Remember I said up above, “Not that I needed it or anything.” I needed it.
The CURIOUS about “almost”: I found something Becky doesn’t do. But I forgot to make a note of what it was, so now I can’t remember! I guess I’ll have to read another book on marriage.